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We spend so much of life trying to answer questions that we forget to consider whether the questions we’re asking are useful to us.
Questions like Is it difficult? Will it cause me struggle? Will it be a hit to my ego? are fine, and there’s no problem asking them. But there’s a more essential question that deserves consideration.
Is it worth doing?
Is this the essential next step in my journey? Is this what’s required in order for me to follow my dreams? In that case, you can answer whether it’s worth it with a “heck, yes!”
If you’re not sure whether something’s worth doing, you can mull it over. There’s no rush; if something’s worth doing, it’ll be worth doing next week or in a couple months. Stuff worth doing keeps.
The beauty of this question is that it removes your personal feelings from the equation. Will it be a lot of work? What if I fail? What will other people think of me? What if I make a fool of myself? These are questions and answers based in your feelings.
There is nothing wrong with these questions, and I’m not saying that you shouldn’t ask them. It’s never a bad idea to explore your options.
But the most important question is: is it worth doing? If something is worth doing, it is worth working hard at. It is worth taking a risk, risking failure and embarrassment. To paraphrase Nietzsche, you can question the how, but not the if.
Of course, there is a possibility of answering the question “Is it worth it?” with, “Not right now.” You can hold that something is worth doing simultaneously with the awareness that you don’t have the oomph to do it at this moment.
If that is the case, you can move your energy towards getting into a place where you can do the thing worth doing. It may be a long process, and that’s okay. You may have to take one step forward and two steps back. These things are never linear. You may go on your journey and find an unexpected obstacle or ally.
I find that anchoring myself into the question whether something is worth doing gives me the courage and strength to persevere. Receiving yet another rejection email? ‘Sokay. It’s worth doing, which means that it’s worth failing at.
It seems like it should be too simple to work. But simple doesn’t mean easy: deciding to spend your energy and soul on something worth doing is one of the hardest things in the world.
By aligning your behavior with the question of what’s worth doing, you’ll find it easier to clear the pathway of things that are not worth doing. And who knows how much more energy you’ll have when you ditch the mental clutter?
It’s scary, for sure. But it’s worth it.
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